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Suggestions from Sayagyi Dr. Aung Gyi

Ko Hla Min,

I read through your updates  shown in hlamin.com and my suggestions are given below.

I feel that your book should reflect the love of RIT students for their alma mater, the respect and gratitude shown by RIT students towards their respective teachers, the attachment, bond and friendship among RIT students; and the love for their motherland by RIT students. In short, it should reflect what we call “RIT spirit”. You can base the preparation of the book, beginning from the establishment of Faculty of Engineering, Rangoon University, on your updates and other relevant sources. The word RIT  includes all different names of Engineering Institutions in Myanmar, past and present.

Having said all of the above, the following headings come to my mind for your proposed book:

  1. SPZPs/Reunions  involving all  disciplines  which had taken place in Myanmar and abroad.
  2. Establishment of alumni associations abroad and in Myanmar to help RIT and motherland.
  3. Establishment of Swe Daw Yeik Foundation.
  4. Establishment of healthcare fund for RIT teachers in Myanmar.
  5. Fund drive and contributions to upgrade the RIT/YTU library.
  6. Various activities/ mini-reunions / get-togethers  among groups of RIT students/teachers which reflect the life and also bond among RIT students/teachers, established in the past ,during RIT days.
  7. Other interesting episodes related to RIT.

The above gives you a few thoughts I have for your book. I would like to recommend that you  also get suggestions from others for your book.

Good luck and best wishes.
Aung Gyi

Advice from friends

  • Be mindful every moment.
    Most meditation retreats advise the yogis to continue practicing mindfulness in daily life.
  • If one is inattentive for a few seconds while walking or running, then one can trip or fall and incur serious injuries.
    A dhamma friend succumbed to internal bleeding after an unintentional fall.
  • If one is inattentive for a few seconds while driving, then one can get involved in an accident with serious consequences.
  • If in doubt, follow the three second rule.
    For example, count “One, two, three” before changing lanes.
  • Don’t climb up a foot or higher without something to hang on to.
    A former classmate was trying to fix the leaky roof and fell from the roof.
  • Take 30 seconds to 2 minutes before changing posture.
    Don’t get up abruptly from bed.
  • Maintain balance and moderation.
    With control, you can enjoy good food and even beer, wine or whiskey.
    [Per Saya U Tin Maung Nyunt] Saya Dr. Tha Hla offered alcoholic drinks to his guests along with his advice. “If possible, do not add water and soda to whiskey. Drink with moderation. Don’t let the alcohol “drink” you (Ah Yet Ka Lu Ko Ma Thauk Say Nei).”
  • Enjoy BFF (Best Friends Forever).
    Meet, greet, eat and be merry.
    Vitamin F is essential to longevity.
  • Laughter is the best medicine.
    You can get good results even if you fake a laugh.
  • Dana” (Generosity) transcends religion and culture.
    Perform good deeds.
    You get merit every time you rejoice about those deeds.
  • [Per friend] Try to chant as often as possible :”I am imperfectly perfect“.
    It is better to get a thing done than waiting for perfection (which may never come as in Charles Babbage’s projects).
  • Que sera sera (What will be will be).
    The classic song reminds us that some things are beyond our control.
    Some pray as follows :
    “Give me the power to accept the things I cannot change,
    the courage to change the things I can,
    and the wisdom to know the difference”.
  • Do not have great expectations.
    For example, Buzz Aldrin became depressed after the Apollo 11 trip, because he was the second person to land on the moon [after Neil Armstrong].
  • Don’t expect gratitude.
    Jesus Christ cured a dozen (or so) lepers, but only one thanked him.
  • Remember the things you learned as a child.

“I had the blues
because I had no shoes
Till upon a street
I met a man without feet.”

“Brighten in your corner.”

“In life’s rosy morning
In manhood’s firm pride
Let this be the motto
Your footsteps to guide
In storm or in sunshine
Whatever assail
We’ll go onward and conquer
And never sail FAIL.”

“Brighten in your corner.”

Dr. Khin Maung U’s Medical Report

KMU Medical Report #118 Spanking May Make Kids More Aggressive

Children who are spanked by their parents may be more apt to develop aggressive behaviors, and may also be at an increased risk of mental health disorders, according to new guidance from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP). {Link: Robert D. Sege, Benjamin S. Siegel, COUNCIL ON CHILD ABUSE AND NEGLECT, COMMITTEE ON PSYCHOSOCIAL ASPECTS OF CHILD AND FAMILY HEALTH. Pediatrics Nov 2018, e20183112; DOI: 10.1542/peds.2018-3112)

“Aversive disciplinary strategies, including all forms of corporal punishment and yelling at or shaming children, are minimally effective in the short-term and not effective in the long-term,” according to an updated policy statement.

“The recommendation is that corporal punishment is harmful to children’s physical and mental health; it is not effective and parents should use other methods of discipline.”

This update to the 1998 recommendations relied on numerous studies over the past 2 decades that strengthened the AAP guidance. The new guidance goes a step further to highlight ways corporal punishment can be harmful:
• Corporal punishment of children age <18 month increases the likelihood of physical injury
• Repeated use of corporal punishment may lead to aggressive behavior and altercations between the parent and child and may negatively affect the parent-child relationship
• Corporal punishment is associated with increased aggression in preschool and school-aged children

In one study, children who were spanked more than twice a month at age 3 years were more aggressive at age 5 years. A follow-up study at age 9 “noted correlations between spanking at age 5 years and higher levels of externalizing behavior and lower receptive vocabulary scores at age 9,” the authors wrote. “This can lead to a cycle in which children who are spanked have more aggressive behavior, which results in more spanking.”

Another study showed that the impact of corporal punishment was short lived – within 10 minutes of the punishment, 73% of children repeated the behavior for which they had originally been punished.

The authors emphasized that pediatricians play a role in helping parents develop different methods for disciplining children. “There are a number of approaches to discipline that pediatricians may discuss with parents during well-child visits and those visits that are designed to address discipline issues.

For instance, the directive to “stop running” may be ineffective for younger children because they only discern the word “running,” and keep going, explained Jennifer Shu, MD, editor of HealthyChildren.org, at the press conference. Instead, the parent could instruct the child to walk, she said. Shu, of Children’s Medical Group in Atlanta, also suggested making checklists for kids before school so there isn’t last-minute chaos with “everyone scrambling to get out the door.” She emphasized that preparing children to be successful in day-to-day activities may work better than falling back on corporal punishment.

It is noted that in the U.S. 19 states permit corporal punishment in schools and all 50 states permit corporal punishment in homes. But “the most important relationships that each pediatrician has is the relationship with our parents, and there is no need to put fear and violence into that relationship.”

Why worry?

  • U Aung Min (M69) told me repeatedly to “slow down” and “to reduce brain work”. He was worried that I might burn out.
  • Some friends joked, “You write more and faster than we can read. Take some rest”.
  • Some suggested that I should find some young volunteers to help with some parts.
  • Some of my friends and even younger people had “senior moments”. My younger cousin sister would say, “I forgot what I wanted to say”.
  • Through my Thin Sayas, Myin Sayas and Kyar Sayas, I learned interesting episodes that cannot be read from the history books.
  • Compared to the geniuses with phenomenal memory, I am at the lower rung. But, I am happy that I remember people and events more than the average person.
  • Dr. Thane Oke Kyaw Myint, Dr. Nyunt Wai, Dr. Khin Maung U, U Khin Maung Zaw and several others have added valuable insights to my posts. I hope the “Tumbleweed effect” will help turn my raw thoughts and writings into memorable articles and may be even e-books and books.
  • My spouse and I are body donors. There will be no services for our last journey. I am enjoying every day as other occasion to share my thoughts and experiences with my mentors, colleagues, friends, former students and any one who values “dissemination of knowledge”.
  • Some people live long lives, but a few of them were not physically or mentally active for some time. I prefer to have quality of life for our moment on this earth.
  • Someone wrote in my autograph. “Worry is like sand in an oyster. A little produces a pearl. Too much kills the animal”.

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